Travel

The Unsocial Traveller In Me

Why I am unsocial while travelling

Summertime is vacation time. And I love to share and to see what people are doing when they are at new places. I normally share as much as possible for my blog when I have a chance. But this time I realized didn't upload anything from what I do or saw or did in the last couple days. No screenshot of the book I am reading, the fancy Marple syrup latte I tried for the first time, the skyline of the city from far away while sitting at the lake and seeing the sun slowly going down. Now snaps of what I ate or my face.

I didn't check my phone.  I didn't write into my WhatsApp groups to update everybody of what I am doing. Why not? Am I antisocial and forgetting everybody?

Not really, I just take the new environment all in. Because I couldn't be bothered to buy a SIM card for this country I only have internet on my phone when I get to a wifi spot. This leads to many moments of "where the fuck am I? Lost in the city again! " asking strangers for directions and moments without the comfortable distractions at the reach of your phone. Digital detox. Not being available feels so good. Not having the obligation to share my day.

And be refreshed when getting to the business. Because all the ideas are flowing now. Creativity needs space, silence and time to grow and to develop.

 

Why Creativity needs Isolation 

Some people tend to get really productive when they are on a plane. Because with no internet that can distract us, we start to use our creativity again. When was the last time you felt bored, alone, awkward in a social situation or even just a tiny little bit uncomfortable and you did not reach out for your phone for some comfort?

 

When Social Awkwardness takes over

We all know it. We are sitting in a room full of people, the public transport or even at a friends house. And everybody has their phone in the hand. Starring at the screen. Isolating through your headphones. No doubt, I love to get my morning commute going with some privacy of my own music. And I don't want to skip that at all. But I bet you have been in a surrounding where you grabbed your phone maybe because you didn't know what to say anymore, or you felt that everybody else was doing something super important on their phone. Or you wanted to connect to somebody but didn't know how so that's when you took your phone and showed them a funny video you just gave a like a minute before. I think it's not that bad to endure some social awkward occasions once in a while. And to deal with people the old school way. Either you just blankly ignore the fact/person that is caused the awkwardness or you can try to solve it with some offline chatting. I am out ✌🏾

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13 Things I Learned Living Abroad

 

1.  You will take more risks in life

Living in a foreign country can be challenging and things you might have avoided in the past because you were afraid of them don’t bother you much anymore. You start to realise that a lot of fear is actually unjustified. Your new mantra is FEAR -  Face Everything And Rise

 

2.  You will appreciate things from your homeland you never paid attention to

How I miss my typical german whole wheat bread! And my potato sauce which I can’t get a handoff outside of Germany. Well, I don’t bother to get it, because I know somehow amazon.comwould make it possible but I prefer getting excited when I travel home and I know I can fill my shopping bag with those goods.

But it is not only about food, you will miss certain customs, cultural traditions and people. 

 

3.  You attract what you send

Every place on earth has the potential to help you to grow. Have great experiences and value your stay there. At the same time, you can experience negative things anywhere. It depends on what you are focussing on. Having a bad day in a foreign country can be either more dramatic for you, or you can refocus on the positive things you experienced and gain something from the challenge. 

 

4. You can find friends everywhere

True friends will always be there, no matter the distance. But let’s be honest, you also need a support network in your place. It never took me a lot of time to meet new interesting people. I found good friends in class, at work, on a bus, on my way to the supermarket, online, through my flatmates or out clubbing. It doesn’t really matter where you are as long as you keep your eyes and ears open and connect with people. 

 

5. Covered health insurance by your state is a privilege

I never really thought about that as a privilege as I grew up with this, but when I had to pay hundreds of dollars for a doctors visit I had this nostalgic feeling for my social health system from my home country. 

 

6. Your worldview will broaden and you will overthink old belief systems

Maybe you came to a country with a very specific image in your head. And you were disappointed that this image was nowhere to be found except in corny touristy shops in your hotel.  

We get bombarded with images about other countries on our TV screen and we grow up with a certain world view. When I was young, I actually really believed that South America was just a big jungle with piranhas and that all people in Scandinavian countries are walking around like Vikings. Though these beliefs sound silly to most of us today, we still maintain certain beliefs about regions in the world that we never challenged until we booked a ticket to this country.  A lot of that also has to do with a Eurocentric worldview that is imposed on all of us from early childhood (even when you are growing up outside of Europe, you will get the impression, through TV and Media, that life in Europe/ North America, is the ultimate goal).

 

7. The grass is not always greener on the other side

What is your motivation to live abroad? If you think that everything will be easier, brighter and more fun when living outside of your usual environment than you will be disappointed. 

You will be confronted with the same, when not even with more challenges. That’s adult life. 

 

8.  You depend on social communication technologies

I remember the first time when I went abroad to Cape Town, there was no whats app and no Wifi in every corner. Skype just came out and was the only real communication device I had. And when I was in Cuba in 2012 and 2014, there was no private Internet at all for me. So whenever I felt like calling home, I either had to line up for a public computer, check at my University and wait for the extremely slowly Wifi to connect... or I had to make an expensive call from my landline phone. Due to this experiences, I appreciate modern communication technology even more. 

 

9. You will get incredible homesick in the worst moments

When you are sick. When you try to explain yourself but nobody really understands you because you cannot talk in your mother langue. When your car breaks down. When you are lost. When somebody steals your money and cards. When you have a fight. And you think… Why am I even doing this to myself? And you get incredibly homesick. And then you think again. Why am I doing this to myself?  And then you remember and smile.

 

10. You will get addicted exploring the world and already plan the next trip

After living abroad and coming home you realise that the world is a book with many pages. You want to read them all. You want to hike through the jungle and explore the busiest cities in the world. You actually want more than just a one week vacation in that place. You start researching opportunities to work there. Find an accommodation and make connections. You know how to live out of the suitcase. 

 

11. You will become a minimalist by default

Moving around and travelling with a lot of stuff is just shit.  You look at these easy, almost floating people with only one small backpack and you befriend the idea of owning less stuff. You start to declutter and sell and give away things. And it actually is a pretty good feeling when you don’t have to carry so much stuff with you. 

 

12. You will question culture and social standards

You can find yourself in different social and cultural environments and you are a genius in adapting to theses. At the same time, you are realising that cultural norms are also just a giant construct which should nobody hinder anybody from living their life to their fullest potential, no matter how that might look. 

 

13.  You will become this abroad friend to your friends and family at home

That is probably one of the more negative sides of living abroad. You will receive invitations to social events which you can’t attend. And you will learn that some friendships are stronger than others because not all of them survive the distance. But this also has a good side, as quality in friendship is definitely more important than quantity. Living abroad is an experience that adds benefits to your live, give it a try :) What do you think about this? Are you an expat your self? What is your story and what are your experiences? 

Me in Central London